Aaliyah – The One I Gave My Heart To

How Could The One I Gave My Heart To, Break My Heart So Bad?
How Could The One Who Made Me Happy, Make Me Feel So Sad?
Wont Somebody Tell Me? So I Can Understand.
If You Love Me, How Could You Hurt Me Like That?
How Could The One I Gave My World To, Throw My World Away?
How Could The One Who Said I Love You, Say The Things You Say?
How Could The One I Was So True Too, Just Tell Me Lies?
How Could The One I Gave My Heart To, Break This Heart Of Mine?
Tell Me……..
How Could You Be So Cold To Me? When I Gave You Everything.
All My Love, All I Had Inside.
How Could you Just Walk Out The Door?
How Could You Not Love Me Anymore?
I Thought We Had Forever.
I Cant Understand.
How Could The One I Shared My Dreams With, Take My Dreams From me?
How Could The Love That Brought Such Pleasure, Bring Such Misery?
Wont Somebody Tell Me? Somebody Tell Me Please.
If You Love Me, How Could You Do That To Me?
Tell Me……..
How Could you Just Walk Out The Door?
How Could You Not Love Me Anymore?
I Thought We Had Forever.
I Cant Understand.
*How Could The One I Gave My Heart To, Break My Heart So Bad?
How Could The One Who Made Me Happy, Make Me Feel So Sad?
Wont Somebody Tell Me? So I Can Understand.
If You Love Me, How Could You Hurt Me Like That?*
How Could The One I Gave My World To, Throw My World Away?
How Could The One Who Said I Love You, Say The Things You Say?
How Could The One I Was So True Too Just Tell Me Lies?
*How Could The One I Gave My Heart To…..
How Could The One I Gave My Heart To….
How Could The One I Gave My Heart To Break This Heart of Mine?
Tell Me……..

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Be Not Deceived

As these days progress, more and more deception is coming our way. “Be not deceived”was a warning from God.

When we were young, so innocent and pure,
I thought our love would forever endure.
I totally trusted and in him believed.
Never expecting to be totally deceived.

Then I was broken, and tossed away.
A victim of lies, and deceit his way.
He said the loved me, but lied for years.
Holding me close and calling me dear.

 

So wounded….and broken indeed.
My heart… ripped out, it seemed.
Destroyed… by deceptive deeds.
A stranger… in my house to me.

When I was happy, or so it seemed,
I looked to him, to my man to please.
Totally ignoring, the Lord and His deeds.
And living this life by its meager means.

But I was abused and emotionally beat.
Trying to please him was a useless feat.
Never expecting that he was living a lie.
Using me up and wanting me to die.

So wounded….and broken indeed.
My heart… ripped out, it seems.
Destroyed… by deceptive deeds.
A stranger… in my house to me.

He lived a lie, pretending to care.
And used me up, like a working mare.
Always wanting, but never pleased.
Biding his time for his planned release.

He said he waited for that certain day,
When he was ready, to be on his way.
Never suspecting that he didn’t love me,
totally fooled by his deceptive deeds.

So wounded….and broken indeed.
My heart… ripped out, it seems.
Destroyed… by deceptive deeds.
A stranger… in my house to me.

But when I was broken, and tossed away,
I cried to God,”Help Me”, I pray.
I need You now, more than before!
Please help me now, I need you more!

Forgive me Lord, for looking towards man
When you were there and reaching a Hand.
For I would never have been so deceived,
with Your Spirit in me, this I believe.

So wounded….and broken indeed.
My heart… ripped out, it seems.
Destroyed… by deceptive deeds.
A stranger… in my house to me.

GALATIANS 6:7

Stranger In My House

I don’t understand
You look just like the man
In the picture by our bed
The suspence is pounding and clouding up my head
I’m checkin’ your clothes
And you wear the same size shoe
You sleep in his spot
And you’re driving his car
But I don’t know just who you are

There’s a stranger in my house
It took a while to figure out
There’s no way you could be who you say you are
You gotta be someone else
Cuz he wouldn’t touch me like that
And he wouldn’t treat me like you do
He would adore me, he wouldn’t ignore me
So I’m convinced there’s a stranger in my house

I’m not sure who you are
Don’t see your shadow around when you walk
Ain’t leavin’ no kisses
Goodbye with no words
If these walls could talk
They would have nothing to tell

So what could it be?
Is there someone immitating me?
Could she be taking my place?
Look me in the face
And tell me that I’m wrong
When I say…

There’s a stranger in my house
It took a while to figure out
There’s no way you could be who you say you are
You gotta be someone else
Cuz he wouldn’t touch me like that
And he wouldn’t treat me like you do
He would adore me, he wouldn’t ignore me
So I’m convinced there’s a stranger in my house

Pop quiz
Tell me where we first kissed
Tell me where my spot is
Tell me if I liked it, loved it
Or could it be
That the stranger is me
Have I changed so drastically?
Is it I want more for me?
And you remain the same

There’s a stranger in my house
It took a while to figure out
There’s no way you could be who you say you are
You gotta be someone else
Cuz he wouldn’t touch me like that
And he wouldn’t treat me like you do
He would adore me, he wouldn’t ignore me
So I’m convinced there’s a stranger in my house

The five questions that tell you if it’s worth forgiving a cheating partner (and a five step recovery plan if the answer is yes!)

Tracey Cox says you can forgive a cheating partner in some circumstances

But in order to move on you need to accept YOU may have to change
Tracey says that it is important to accept the old relationship is dead

By TRACEY COX

As yet another celebrity marriage seems to have bitten the dust with Blurred Lines Robin Thicke and wife Paula Patton announcing their split after twenty years, the question of how to recover from an affair seems more and more apt.

While it’s not clear what was the actual cause of the couple’s parting, there have been many rumours of indescretions on Robin’s part and few things compare with the pain of betrayal.

When you love someone it feels like you’re in a nice, safe, love-infused bubble that no-one can penetrate.

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Then, overnight, with a confession or a discovery, that bubble bursts. And boy does it burst with a bang.

Some couples do survive infidelity but only if both of you honestly think the relationship is worth it and the guilty person is prepared to do everything it takes to win back your trust and love.

This will help you decide and guide you through the process of recovery.

STEP ONE: Are they worth another chance?

Some cheating partners don’t deserve to be forgiven.

Ask yourself these five crucial questions.

Have they cheated on other people in the past?

If someone has developed a pattern of cheating over and over, they will continue to do it again (and again) until someone – hopefully you – dumps them brutally and they realise they can’t get away with it. No second chances in this case. Ever.

Why did they do it?

A one-off incident with seemingly genuine reasons to explain it is a lot easier to forgive than repeated slip-ups or a long-term affair.

When it comes to cheating a one-off incident is a lot easier to forgive than repeated slip-ups or a long-term affair

When it comes to cheating a one-off incident is a lot easier to forgive than repeated slip-ups or a long-term affair

 Put yourself in their shoes: if you were them, feeling the way they did, in the situation they were in, what would you do? Can you understand it?

What do you think they will do if they’re in the same predicament in the future?

What guarantees can they give you that it won’t happen again?

How was your relationship when it happened?

You’ll be much more likely to forgive (if not forget) if you were aware your partner was unhappy, the relationship wasn’t great and you were suspicious.

If you thought you were blissfully happy and didn’t notice a single sign that anything was wrong, it’s desperately hard to trust again.

If there were no clues last time round, how will you know if it happens again?

Do they regret what they’ve done?

They should be even more miserable about the pain it’s caused than you are.

STEP TWO: Give each other space

Your first reaction will be to want to cling onto him and not let him out of your sight.

Don’t.

There are two things you need to establish at this point: that you mean business and their behaviour is not acceptable and that you have dignity.

If you live together, get him to move out for a few days. You need this time to logically sort through your emotions.
If you don’t live together, say you don’t want to see them for a while. Start a diary of all your emotions and your questions and use it make a list of questions you need answers to at the end of the time apart.

STEP THREE: Meet up

This isn’t a kiss and makeup session. This is a meeting to decide if there is enough worth saving.

Warn your partner there are lots of questions you still need answered. If they’re not prepared to answer them, forget it. If they are, start asking.

This will be incredibly painful but it’s essential you get honest answers to what you need to know.

Armed with answers, do you feel reasonably confident you’ll both pull through and there’s still enough to work with?

Now’s the time to move back in or start seeing each other regularly again.

 
Tracey says that if you didn't notice that anything was wrong, it can be desperately hard to trust again
Tracey says that if you didn’t notice that anything was wrong, it can be desperately hard to trust again.

STEP FOUR: Build a new relationship

Your old relationship, the damaged one, is dead. You now need to build a new one.

Yes this is sad, but it’s also exciting. Just think! It may well end up even better than the first in lots of ways!

What will be missing though, is innocence and trust.

The aim is to replace this with other qualities, like, ‘We are survivors – even this didn’t break us up.’

You will feel insecure and you will feel angry. You will fight about it, over and over, to begin with. This is normal.

To get through it, you need to set some rules for the new relationship. These are specific to you two but you might want to think about things like telling each other where you are all the time, checking in during periods that might be hard for you to cope with, sending lots of reassuring texts.

STEP FIVE: Be prepared to change

All of the above looks after you, the wronged party.  

But as much as it should be skewed to look after you, it’s unfair to discount your partner’s needs.
Your partner cheated for a reason.

What did they get from this new person that they couldn’t get from you?

Who were they with the new person?

When couples have been together a long time, it’s hard to reinvent yourself and get your partner to see you as someone ‘new’.

Were there parts of themselves that felt satisfied with the other person that aren’t being satisfied with you? What are they?

Explore ways to help him be able to do this with you.

One final question that I am asked all the time: when will I feel better and the pain go away?

The answer is this: time heals wounds that are able to be healed.

In six months, you should be feeling better most of the time; one year on, trust should be developing again.

If it’s not, it’s time to move forward – solo.

(via dailymail.co.uk)

De La Soul – Pawn Star Ft. Shell Council

[Male Announcer]

The following explicit content in this song by “Pawn Star”
Are not necessarily the views expressed by De La Soul
But they understand

[Female Announcer]
Execute porn star NOW!!!

1 – [* People having sex *]

[* People talking *]

Pawn star…..Pawn star

[Shell Council]
Check it, pussy got me wide open, writin’ the love notes
Butt naked, strippin’ out of her trenchcoat
Got me hittin’ high notes, pitchin’ a deep throat
Bitch be suckin’ niggas car door

[Dave]
Yo, I broke my piggy bank just to see that pussy stank
Smelly in Africa then Africa, whoa

[Shell Council]
I know like you know when you spendin’ them hundred dollar notes
We box triangles all angles

[Dave]
Yo, throw her on the table Shell

[Shell Council]
No, I tie her with a phone cable [* Phone rings *]
Bound her by her wrists and ankles
I bust right off Pun and Abel

[Dave]
Yo, actin’ like we’re kidnappers stabbin’ the mouth with two dicks
Take a couple of new flicks

[Shell Council]
Click…click give up the money bitch
Had her backin’ it up, smackin’ it up
Yo, we fucked till the sun came up

[Hook: with 1 in background]
Pawn star, hey there special lady do what you do
Cause I don’t care what they say to you
See you’re my pawn star
You’re beautiful to me in every little way
A very special lady, pawn star
Rather doggy style than missionary
You very, very…very, very…very beautiful pawn star
You’re a superstar to me and you came into my life pawn star
Many years ago you made me feel so good
You knew that when no one understood
Cause you’re my pawn star
Haey, hey, hey, hey uh
And you could never be my wife, trick

[Shell Council]
Yo I reign supreme, champion back off
Shorty’s a five start porner
Turn tricks, wants some dick inside her
Work the spread eagle like National Enquirer
Pussy lips grips the neck of Coke bottles
And turn style will have you nibblin’ on a nickel
All of a sudden out came the shackel
Shell ain’t go no problem with
You can be my…

[Hook with 1 in background]
Pawn star…pawn star…pawn star…pawn star

3 Things You Need to Know Before Getting Married

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1. HAPPILY EVER AFTER ISN’T THE POINT.
As soon as we’re able to understand bedtime stories, Cinderella and her friends tell us love is about happiness. Hollywood eventually takes up Cinderella’s campaign, inundating us with the idea that marriage — and sex — is our gateway into happily ever after.

But what if I told you happily ever after isn’t the point?

It doesn’t take long into matrimony for most of us to realize Disney and Hollywood were full of it. At that point, our frustration with Cinderella is only rivaled by the disillusionment we feel in our marriages.

Our modern obsession with being happy often makes it far more natural for us to love happiness more than we ever love another human. And though being happy is a very real by-product of a healthy relationship, the value we put on personal happiness is so inflated, its causing us to miss one of the more beautiful purposes of marriage. The ancient Hebrew culture, on the other hand, didn’t seem to miss this purpose. The language even highlights and unpacks this ideal for us.

In Hebrew, the word used for marriage actually means “Fire.” And not-so-coincidentally, fire is also the element used throughout ancient Hebrew culture to represent personal reformation. In this light, marriage (and its necessary friction) is seen less as a doorway to happily ever after and more as a tool in divine hands to help us become increasingly beautiful — increasingly our best and brightest selves.

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2. GOOD CONSUMERS MAKE BAD LOVERS.
I couldn’t wait to get married. Of course, I loved my wife and couldn’t see my future with anyone else. Yet I was mostly looking forward to the perpetual slumber party, saying goodbye to the awkwardness of singlehood, and (obviously) the endless, mind-blowing sex.

And with that, I became a perfect illustration of another misguided modern mentality towards marriage.

Many of our ideas of love lead us to, consciously or subconsciously, begin and end the conversation with what marriage can do for us. Sadly, this me-centricity has a way of neutering the beauty of marriage — taking a relationship designed for giving and making it all about getting.

Yet again, the Hebrew language seems to bring a certain light to our modern ideas. The Hebrew word for love — ahava — has little to do with what one feels or receives. To the contrary — ahava — is actually a verb that means “I give.” As it turns out, love is not the fleeting butterflies we get when looking into the eyes of our significant other. It’s not something we fall into when dating. It’s far simpler — and far wilder — than all of that. It’s the everyday choices we make — big or small — to give to our spouse.

  • It’s taking out the trash.
  • It’s actively choosing to give him space when he is stressed.
  • It’s a text message, mid-afternoon, to tell her you can’t stop thinking about her.
  • It’s the choice to not react to something he said, but asking what he meant and how it makes him feel, instead.
  • It’s the time you’re late for a meeting, but run back inside to tell your wife — who you know adores being told — how much she means to you that day.
  • It’s the painful routine of taking the 3:00 a.m. newborn feeding shift so your wife can finally have three hours of uninterrupted sleep.

Love is not the fairy-tale beginnings as much as it is the small, mundane — but generous — things we do for each other every day. And as we begin to orient ourselves to this brand of love that requires us to show up continually, we’re sure to discover the beautiful paradox that it is.

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3. LOVE IS A JOURNEY — NOT A FREE FALL.

“We fell in love and got married.”

This was certainly my story. After a few stomach butterflies and a handful of DTRs (Define the Relationship), I thought my wife and I had arrived at the much-sought-after phenomenon of being in love. It was no wonder I expected all the benefits of love on Day One of our marriage.

You know the benefits I’m talking about. The trusted friendship. The happy partnership. The ongoing romance.

But anyone who has experienced marriage knows that though these benefits are very real perks of love, they don’t come for free.

  • Trust requires trust-building circumstances over time.
  • True companionship comes from years of conversation.
  • And romance? Well, the kind of romance that doesn’t fade only comes from being intentional over the long haul.

Many of us get married and immediately expect to reap the rewards of love and quickly learn that true love isn’t something we fall into. This state of “Love” (and all of its benefits) is developed over years of learning to relate to one another — it’s a journey.

A friend of mine recently attended a small gathering after a frustrating fight with his wife. As they went around the circle introducing themselves, he announced they had been married five years. A woman, almost cutting them off, blurted out, “five years? Oh, you guys are only kindergarteners.”

Suddenly, my friends frustrations with his marriage disappeared. As he thought about the woman’s simple but profound comment, he realized: everybody expects kindergarteners to occasionally act childish, be selfish, and throw tantrums. Perhaps he should cut himself and his wife some slack in his marriage.

We can’t expect to microwave love, and can’t assume our spouse or our marriage will offer all the benefits of love on Day One.

Marriage, with its everyday equation of radical proximity to another human is never going to fit nicely into our neat boxes of formulas and principled ideals. I get it. And, regardless of what we know before we get married or not, it is always going to have a way of stretching us — many times to the brink of wanting to give up. But perhaps with every misguided idea about marriage we replace with a more timeless one, the more natural the very unnatural art of loving another person becomes.

 

(via Tyler Ward @ Huffington Post)