Office Affairs

Today’s workplace has become the number one place to engage in extra martial affairs. What used to be inconceivable is rapidly becoming somewhat of an epidemic. 20 years ago infidelity in the workplace was highly uncommon. The separation between the sexes that once existed is almost obsolete. This leaves the office as the modern day version of a singles bar. In numerous surveys it is found that on average over 60% of people confess to sex with a co-worker.

Why has the workplace turned from strictly business to opportunity and temptation? The environment of the office is built around teamwork, co-workers share common goals. Gone are the days of supervisory male and female subordinate affairs. More men and women find themselves as peers, working on assignments or projects with unavoidable closeness.

The intent of infidelity is usually not the case. Actually quite the contrary. The men and women who get caught up in an office romance more often then not have a happy home life and a wonderful marriage. When working in such close contact emotional attachment is a natural offshoot. What starts as a coffee break or lunch to discuss the current project tends to become more frequent. These outtings often lead to sharing more personal information about oneself. There becomes a deeper connection regarding both work and personal life. The bond has been made.

This tends to be where the marriage starts to fracture and the affair starts to florish. When you feel your spouse no longer understands you and your new partner understands all aspects of your life. You start to work longer hours, take longer lunches, or even mini weekend “work” getaways. You are now romantically involved with your co-worker.

Although as popular as the workplace is for affairs there are many things to consider before allowing yourself to fall into this trap. An affair can be complicated enough, however, when you add the additional stress of work you may end up with more than you bargained for. What you perceived to be a fun and exciting adventure could end up distracting you from your work, making your job more difficult. Take the time to consider the consequences before you become involved with a co-worker if you want to stay happily married and / or gainfully employed.

Dear Future Husband

It seems that by some type of divine intervention, fate, destiny or whatever higher power we’ve managed to find each other. You turned out to be more than I could possibly have asked for. It’s been a long, painful and testing road to get to each other. Through the turmoil we were able to live, learn and grow to become exactly what our tired, beaten hearts needed to be shocked back to life. Beating now as one, in unison, stronger than ever before. The thought alone doesn’t just bring a smile to my face but it makes the essence of my very being shine brighter then I ever thought possible. I can breathe again, I can let go and not worry about it hurting because I have u to hold me together. I have never felt so loved by anyone before.

I feel like I can die tomorrow knowing that I’ve met my soul mate. Thank u for being u and for loving me. I adore u and everything u stand for. U have become the foundation to my life. I feel that with u by my side I can achieve the things I want. I can be a better mother, a better woman, daughter, sister and just an all around better human being. You’ve brought a sense of peace into my life that I didn’t think existed. I promise to do everything in my power to make u feel as loved as you make me feel. All I have left to say is thank u, thank u for saving me and pulling me out of the dark. You’re my angel and I thank God everyday for bringing u to me. I love u.

Mare

QOTD – via bun soup

The greatest irony of life is loving the right person at the wrong time, having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone after that person walks out from your life and sometimes you think you’re already over a person but when you see them smile at you, you’ll suddenly realize that you’re just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again. For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person. Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love; love is always present. It’s just the one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that’s the reason why the heart is not always right. Most often we fall in love with the person we think we love only to discover that for them, we are just for past times, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger. Here’s a piece of advice: let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough and move on when things are not like before. There is someone out there who will love you even more, surely then, you will know true love.

(bun soup)

QOTD – Elizabeth Gilbert

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, and make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.

She Keeps Me Laughing

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My kids have gotten me through so much, they have been the force that has kept me going under many different circumstances. My two girls are so different though, each one has helped me in different ways. My baby has been my source of laughter…like a beacon of light. Hearing her speak, seeing her facial expressions and hearing the baby talk is something that I enjoy on a day-to-day basis. Would it be incredibly selfish of me to want her to talk like that forever and ever? When she’s a woman and she calls me on the phone I can pretend she’s still three years old. She sings random songs. One day it’s Taylor Swift, another it’s Alicia Keys, or even J. Cole and of course there’s some Beyoncé thrown in there with the classics like ABC, Twinkle Twinkle and Row Your Boat. It’s non-stop entertainment with her. It keeps me smiling even when I don’t feel like smiling. We do random phonecam or webcam photo shoots at night before going to bed, I enjoy those. I love her and feel so blessed to have her in my life every single day, I bet if you guys met her you would love her too because that’s just what she does. Makes you fall in love with her, her personality, her smile and pretty face. I’ll share a little bit of her in the video below. Just please make sure you keep your attention on her because I look like a bag of ass in this one #kthnxbuhbye.

Pssst. Come back ok, I gotta tell you about my first-born. She’s going to be something special so you’ll want to know about her before everyone else does.