Sade – Your Love is King

For my King

QOTD – Paulo Coelho

It was the pure Language of the World. It required no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time. What the boy felt at that moment was that he was in the presence of the only woman in his life, and that, with no need for words, she recognized the same thing. He was more certain of it than of anything in the world. He had been told by his parents and grandparents that he must fall in love and really know a person before becoming committed. But maybe people who felt that way had never learned the universal language. Because, when you know that language, it’s easy to understand that someone in the world awaits you, whether it’s in the middle of the desert or in some great city. And when two such people encounter each other, and their eyes meet, the past and the future become unimportant. There is only that moment, and the incredible certainty that everything under the sun has been written by one hand only. It is the hand that evokes love, and creates a twin soul for every person in the world. Without such love, one’s dreams would have no meaning.

Cancer Man and Libra Woman Love Compatibility

 

Through the elements of Water and Air, Cancer and Libra make one of the most fascinating and befuddling association of all the zodiac signs. Their relationship teaches them the biggest lesson of life, i.e., compromise, resulting in ever-lasting happiness. They both are sensitive to each others feeling and accommodate well once they are together and committed.

A Cancer man is very moody person with sharp and intuitive mind. He is usually popular in his friend circle for his lovely sense of humor. He is true analyst and before taking any important step, he always focuses on shortcomings related to the situation. Though he may look cold occasionally but basically he has a very affectionate and warm nature. In a relationship with a Libra girl, he greatly admires her tender nature and her lovely smile which he milks with his humorous attitude. But since their approach towards life is usually different from Libra woman’s balancing nature, a few problems can crop up.

A Libra woman is a lady full of life, tinkling smile and has some deep understanding of all facets of life. She is known for her loveliness and her warm nature. With all the graceful feminine characteristics, she has intellect at par matching to the male logic. She is one woman who can handle family and office with smooth perfection and fresh thoughts. In love with a Cancer man, she admires him for his protective nature and jolly nature. She adores him for his intelligence and his way of tackling situations. Also she stands beside him to see him flourish in all aspects of life and remove obstacles off his path.

A Cancer man gets fascinated by a Libra woman very easily. As he approaches her with his sensitively humorous attitude, she reacts positively to his approach, giving a good start to the relationship. She not only offers a lovely mate but can also be extremely sensible and give a lot of creative inputs in the business affairs or job of her Cancer male which are always welcomed by him. At times his heroic nature impresses her extremely and she esteems his determination with all her heart. Usually she will be the one to come with the concept of marriage in their relationship, which may not be equally appreciated by the Cancer man at first as he is very cautions regarding every part of life. The over exciting attitude and extravagance of Libra female are the things that irritates him and he may sound either cold or strict at times. However, a bit more of sensibility on her part can make things easy for both of them.

Even the Libra woman is bound to feel attracted towards the Cancer man because of his considerate nature and his ability to make her smile. She feels secure and free whenever she is with him. The chivalry exhibited by the Cancer man brightens up her dull mood. He is also very sympathetic towards the mood swings experienced by his Libra girl as he is compassionate and understands them well. The serenity shown by him makes her bloom in the shine of his love. Once seriously in the relationship, he also looks around for permanence and agrees for the marital knot which makes her feel safe and loved. But the insecure nature of the Cancer man makes her feel bonded and suspected which dampen her spirits. Moreover, she sometimes also finds him to be secretive which forces her to look for the reliability of the relationship in long term.

As romance deeply flourishes between these two love birds, the Cancer man and Libra woman will make a perfect match with so much of consideration and respect for each other that it even inspires others. With her tinkling smile and his great sense of humor their home is always a dwelling place for laughter and happiness. Their flowers are always fresh and their eyes are always brimming with love for each other. The Air of Libra woman keeps the Water of Cancer man cool and composed. He gives up all his insecurities and tells her all that his heart holds while she forgets the whole world and fall deeply for her Cancer man showing strong loyalty and affection. As spirited are their sunrises, as romantic are their sunsets with the fragrance of care and devotion lingering around them.

Physical relationship helps them to keep the mundane tensions of life at bay and understand each other more closely. When the Cancer man completely dedicates himself in a relationship, then he expresses his emotion physically, without being bogged down by any kind of fear. He can prove to be a great lover because he can instill a sense of peace in the mind of the Libra woman, through his emotional nature and balances her problems with his soothing touch. The physical relationship with the Cancer man helps her to feel free from all the worries of life. He thoroughly enjoys the physical relationship because she infuses immense amount of tenderness, which helps him to relax and experience a lot of joy through it. She makes him comfortable and shower immense love on him both physically and emotionally. He would do anything to retain the kind of feelings that are triggered by the Libra woman. There is a purity in their intimacy and a bond that connect their hearts straight. At times lack of passion between the two, can invite some problems in their life. To avoid such situations, they both need to maintain strong loyalty towards each other.

Though both are very affectionate in nature but there is a key difference between the styles of loving of both the Cancer man and Libra woman that could easily become a bone of contention over time. He expresses his love in a personalized manner, while she is definitely more intellectually inclined. The possessiveness and stinginess of him, makes her dull and her argumentativeness and temperament makes him detached. There is always a chance of building huge walls around one’s self, restricting the conversation between both leading to strong disliking and differences. But if a little caution is taken, he can be extraordinarily caring and supportive, and she is ready to accommodate and compromise!

 

In The Arc of Orgasm

I’m in love. I’m in a new love relationship and it is sweet. In fact, it’s many things, like any relationship.

When I’m in love, I feel so alive, so full, so rich. In making love with this new love, I’m being asked to open my heart and body to an ever deepening experience of vulnerability and tenderness. I’m being asked to savor life through this body, and to trust that, even though being in this woman’s body feels exceedingly vulnerable, there is also a gorgeous richness and ripeness available to me precisely because I am alive in this female body.

This is the edge I’ve always felt as a woman – the edge between the possibility of living a life of deep-feeling and sensuality, the full expression of eroticism, and the vulnerability that seems to be inherent in living life in a woman’s body – a body in which we receive our lover into ourselves. I don’t know about you, but to me this edge is where aliveness happens, where the rawness of life touches me in a most human way.

I suppose it is much like a flower. When petals open to the sun, the flower shows its most tender and vulnerable places, and it is in this opening to life that we get to experience the full, rich beauty of the flower. I have a not-so-secret love affair with flowers, for just this reason. I am drawn into them because of the stark contrast between their softness and the harsh world in which they grow. They are both luminous and numinous, one of the most beautiful examples of the ephemeral nature of life here on earth.

As I deepen into my new lover, I am beginning to open, a little more willingly each day, to feeling this ephemeral experience of life, knowing that this, too, won’t last forever. Every relationship ends at some point. As I learn to trust what my lover offers me each day, I also open to the realization that I have just as much to offer to my lover and there is no point in holding back my gifts.

This is the exchange of giving and receiving that love and life are truly about. It isn’t about staying open all the time; rather it is tuning into the dance of the heart that opens and closes, into the breath that comes and goes, into the rhythms of the moon that waxes and wanes.

To open in this way, I’m having to question many of the beliefs I’ve held about the nature of exchange, the exchange inherent in giving and receiving. I’ve had deep fears that I would have to give so much away in order to receive; that receiving put me in a position of weakness; that I was a better person if I gave more than I got; that I had to earn everything I was offered; and that all some people want to do is take.

All of these beliefs cause me to see the world in a way that is distorted, and that causes me to not trust others or my own natural neediness as a human being. They caused me not to trust life, itself.

When we create and express and share this prosperity with the world through our work and love, we come into flow, the flow of eroticism in a physical world that is alive and pulsing with abundant prosperity.

Yes, life, itself, is my new love. Life is teaching me how to receive and in this teaching, I am learning how to give in a healthier way. This is the most erotic, sensual, sexual dance I’ve danced. Life is in a constant state of arousal, constantly in the arc of orgasm, coming into being, letting go into death.

Here, in this dance, I’m discovering prosperity, for what could be a more prosperous life that living the full arc of creation – both many, many times, and one big long arc of a life fully lived, fully alive?

Here, in this dance, I’m really discovering how to be fully in relationship with myself, finding the dance of the feminine and masculine with me, the giving and receiving, the pulsing out and the drawing into.

I’m not saying it is easy, nor that I do it perfectly. But I am learning to come back to the dance. To open once again. To say yes to this lover.

Can you feel it? Can you feel this arc of orgasm in your own life? This is a kind of prosperity that can never be taken away, can never be lost, can never lose its sheen in the light of your own heart and soul. The abundance of life is all around us, an abundance that lives and dies, comes and goes. None of it is ours, nor was it ever ours. We neither deserve it, nor do we not deserve it. It is life. Giving and receiving allows us to participate in this flow for as long as we are here. That, in itself, is enough.

(via Julie Daley)

L’Amour Fou

I have never been the kind of girl that fantasizes about her wedding day, the dress she wants to wear or what theme and colour palette to use. I’ve had my ups and downs with the idea of marriage. When I became a mother I thought that ideally I would be married but not everything is ideal is it? So considering my love hate relationship that I’ve had with the idea of wedding dresses and flowers its very surprising to me that as soon as I knew I was getting married I already knew what I wanted that day to look like. Only further proof that yes…I can be a real girl. I remember being in high school and talking about the different themed parties we would have for all our different weddings but it was all in good fun. In a few days I will be a Mrs. and the thought of it alone makes me grin like a fool as opposed to my usual eye roll towards that particular matter.The changes that a person can influence in you are astounding aren’t they? I guess it’s all love. Potent, irrevocable love. I’m sorry guys…I know I’ve been one big ball of cheese lately but c’est l’amour fou.