QOTD – 29 August 2011

I think you’re pretty brave to live by yourself. We just have to work on making you happy again. I have my difficult days too. But we can’t stop trying to live life. Look how good it felt these last couple days. I didn’t expect it either. But that’s the whole point. You never know what’s coming around the next corner. I promise things will get better…


“…I have to be willing to drastically transform myself so that I can become the woman i know I can be.”

I’ve been here before, this bankrupt, this broken and still struggling with the changing part but I’m a better person DESPITE of my struggles.

I’ve also learned that you can’t expect or need validation from ANYONE for the things you’ve done and the things you’ve accomplished. As for the nay sayers in your life, fuck em. You will always be TOO this or TOO that to someone. Know yourself and know your worth, strive to be better than you were yesterday…little things DO matter. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. You don’t need to scale a mountain in a day. Step by step you will make it to the peak and it will be great.

Do things with love and patience. Enjoy your journey. Learn from it. Take something away from each day you’re here and apply it to your life so you can keep growing. Love yourself first and foremost. Before your kids, before your spouse, before anyone…YOU come first. You can’t do anything for anyone until you’ve done for yourself. Be selfish, it’s ok. Be happy, you deserve it.


Hope Lisa Nichols words touch at least one of you today. She has an amazing story.


How to Talk to Your Kids About Martin Luther King Any Day of the Year

If he hadn’t been assassinated in Memphis in 1968, Martin Luther King, Jr. might have lived to be 86 this year. And despite the victories of the movement King led, the issues of justice and peace he fought for are still with us. Apart from watching the film Selma—which as Tina Fey joked “is about the American civil rights movement that totally worked and now everything’s fine”—what are some concrete ways to talk with kids about King and his legacy, not just on Martin Luther King Day, but in ongoing conversations?

Clayborne Carson, founding director of the King Institute, professor of history at Stanford University, and author of Martin’s Dream, suggests parents look at King’s childhood. The civil rights leader clearly describes the injustice he suffered in his autobiography: “For a long, long time I could not go swimming, until there was Negro YMCA. A Negro child in Atlanta could not go to any public park. I could not go to the so-called white schools. In many of the stores downtown, I couldn’t go to a lunch counter to buy a hamburger or a cup of coffee. … I remember seeing the Klan actually beat a Negro. I had passed spots where Negroes had been savagely lynched. All these things did something to my growing personality.”

Read more at TIME

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Kenny Smith’s open letter to Charles Barkley about Ferguson


“The question must be asked: Why is there so much distrust in the police and the legal system from the African American community? Without manifesting what the effects of slavery still have today, Dec 1st still marks only 59 years since Rosa Parks sat on that memorable bus. Many of our parents and grandparents have lived through those times and have passed those stories on to all of us. Those civil rights changes were at one time the law! They were not illegal.

So did the protection of the law by the courts and police make it right? Obviously not, so as African Americans we still know and feel that there are laws and jurisdictions that severely penalize the poor and, most importantly, African Americans greater than any other group. Some laws were initially made without us as equals in mind; that’s just the facts. So the thought process that it’s not for us or by us will unfortunately lead to distrust.”

Originally posted on For The Win:

(Photo by Issac Baldizon/NBAE via Getty Images) (Photo by Issac Baldizon/NBAE via Getty Images)

Editor’s Note: NBA Hall of Famer Charles Barkley’s comments about recent events in Ferguson, Mo. have prompted a strong reaction from many, including Kenny Smith, his friend and fellow analyst on TNT’s “Inside the NBA.”

Smith addressed Barkley’s remarks in an open letter submitted exclusively to For The Win. The letter is featured below in its entirety:

Dear Chuck,

I hope this finds you in the way I always see you, in great spirits, with great joy and full of life. There are some things I want to openly say to you that sometimes in conversation get lost.

Firstly I lied!  You ARE the greatest Power Forward of all time. It’s not (Tim) Duncan or (Karl) Malone, they had size and height that you weren’t blessed with and you never had near the talent around you that they were blessed to have. Contrarily you took your…

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